🇺🇸 I’ve developed a behavior of “saving for special occasions”. Like, if I got a new jacket, I will keep wearing the old one regularly and save the new one to special occasions that would almost never happen. I don’t know if you have the same behavior, but I always come to a conclusion that it is something really dumb!

Some people use to say, at new year’s, phrases like, “Happy New You!”, with is nice and catchy. It’s a sort of motivation to shift to a better condition of attitude for life. Then we say that the new year will be the best of our life, better things will happen and everything will be special. Usually we want to say this every new year, because in fact, we’ve spent most of the year wearing the “old jacket”, if you know what I mean.

Different from time, the “old me” just doesn’t disappear like the old year. Old thoughts, old impulses, old actions will follow us during every day of the year, and before we realize, they will overpower the “new you”. We need more than just idealize. The “new you” is our ideals and dreams. The “old you” is our willpower. The thing is, willpower always wins. The successful “new you” will be the one who steals the scene and shows up, it doesn’t matter how special the occasion is. The “new you” makes it special.

Get rid of your “old jacket”. Switch the willpower button to your “new you”. Bring it with you wherever you go. And when it become old, you will say goodbye to him, and start to wear the next new one.

That’s it.



friendly business people interacting during conference break

“For most, interaction is more of a willpower than an ability”.

Some people consider interaction as a challenge. Approaching strangers, getting fit in a group, developing a conversation it might seem easy for some people, but not to everybody. Probably most of people doesn't have this natural ability.

That doesn't mean that, for those who doesn't have this natural ability, they should get accommodated and just accept this situation. Even not having the natural ability to easily interact, human beings are social creatures. We have the natural ability to learn and to develop natural skills. It will depend on our willing to get them. When it comes to interaction, even natural ability will be benefited of a portion of willpower. Natural abilities need to be improved too. Improvement comes with good practices. It requires effort, persistence and positivity.

At the end, this is about fighting against ourselves, not to become a different person, but to bring out the best version of who we are.

That's it.


“Para a maioria, interação é mais uma vontade do que uma habilidade”.

Para algumas pessoas interação é um desafio. Abordar estranhos, se ajustar num grupo, desenvolver uma conversação pode parecer fácil para algumas pessoas, mas não para todo mundo. Provavelmente a maioria não tem essa habilidade natural.

Não significa que, para os que não têm essa habilidade natural, deveriam se acomodar e aceitar essa situação. Mesmo não tendo a habilidade natural de interagir facilmente, seres humanos são criaturas sociais. Temos a habilidade natural de aprender e desenvolver habilidades naturais. Vai depender de nossa vontade de adquirí-las. Quando se trata de interação, mesmo habilidades naturais vão ser beneficiadas de uma dose de vontade. Habilidades naturais precisam ser aprimoradas também. Desenvolvimento vem com boas práticas. Requer esforço, persistência e positividade.

No final, é uma questão de lutar conosco mesmos, não para sermos uma pessoa diferente, mas para trazer à tona a melhor versão de quem somos.

É isso.